AN EFFECTIVE APPROACH TO
CREATING A HEALTHY WORK / LIFE BALANCE
How to establish a healthy work / life balance, so you can feel more relaxed, calmer, focussed and fulfilled in your day to day life, overcome the root causes of your stress and overwhelm, and take back control of where your life is headed…
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How To Overcome Overwhelm, Guilt and Take Back Control Of Your Life…
…while still being a loving mum!
This free guide is for professional women who are looking to strike up a healthy balance between their work and home life.
“Entering motherhood was the first time that I really sat back and evaluated my life, and if I’m being really honest, motherhood was also one of the biggest factors that threw me into living a life of overwhelm.”
Overwhelmed, stressed and exhausted?
Let me tell you, I have been where you are now…
I know exactly what it feels like to balance a career while being a mum and while feeling overwhelmed, stressed and guilty but not knowing how to stop, or what to do next…
I am a single Mum, to a beautiful young daughter who struggles with her social and emotional health and has been diagnosed with ADHD – Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (whilst undergoing further assessment to explore whether she also has ASD – Autism Spectrum Disorder)
The challenges of motherhood…
Entering motherhood was the first time that I really sat back and evaluated my life, and if I’m being really honest, motherhood was also one of the biggest factors that threw me into living a life of overwhelm. Before, I was known as one of life’s ‘copers’. I just got on with stuff and would always find a solution to whatever problem I faced.
Have you had a similar experience?
Motherhood (whilst I loved it) also presented me with the feeling of ‘needing to be perfect’ and also with a fear that I was never going to be quite good enough…
Guilt suddenly became a part of my everyday life and I started to question every decision made as to whether it was the right one, the best one, the perfect one…
This would quickly move into fear and doubt. What if I made the wrong decision? Que the start of my anxiety!
I have sat for almost an hour with my upset daughter, crying, shouting, swearing as she does not want to put her uniform on!
Firstly, because the T-shirts has stupid buttons, secondly because she much prefers the idea of spending her day in her pyjamas as they are by far the most comfortable clothes she owns (I hear you kid). The third reason, probably the one that tore at my heart strings the most, the prospect of school, causing stress on her little mind and body because she had no idea what lay ahead for her.
I have sat there feeling torn between wanting to comfort her and also knowing that if we do not leave the house in the next 10 minutes, there is a very real possibility that I will be late for work! Again!
“I read blog posts and started to join Facebook groups and follow people on Instagram who, I knew were in a similar situation. Phew, as least it wasn’t just me!”
Being ‘that’ mum…
I have been that Mum, whose child has been shouted at on the playground or excluded from parties because of her perceived naughty behaviour.
I have been the Mum who has felt judged and critiqued for not doing enough, not being good enough.
I have been the Mum who has cried because I have many times felt like It was my fault.
I have been at work and felt like I was not quite good enough, feeling exhausted from not knowing how I could possibly help my daughter, feeling guilty that I was doing permanent damage to her mental health by sending her to a place that she clearly seemed to hate.
I have been that Mum who now needs to switch to being a professional manager to a group of professional people in a professional organisation.
I have been that manager who has missed an important deadline, who has rocked up to work looking and feeling deflated. I have been that working Mum who has had to leave work early because her child has been sick at school again! After I sent her in, even though she said she felt a bit sick! Guilty for leaving work and guilty for sending her to school.
Have you been there too?
Are you ready for change?
Overwhelm, anxiety, and fear had almost become my new best friend I was lost in my career and I had lost my own sense of identity and purpose.
I was struggling, I had no idea where to start in getting myself out of these incredibly unhelpful behaviours.
I spent a number of years repeating this cycle of behaviour, the result of which was taking a huge toll on both my physical and mental health. I knew something needed to change I was on a slippery slope, going somewhere that wasn’t part of my planned journey!
As you are reading this now, I assume you are looking for answers to similar problems?
Helping yourself
I knew things had to change, so I decided to do some research into helping myself.
I have always been a big reader so I started to read. I read lots of books to help both me and my daughter, taking on-board some much need advice from people who were experts in the field.
I read blog posts and started to join Facebook groups and follow people on Instagram who, I knew were in a similar situation. Phew, as least it wasn’t just me!
The 3 Most common problematic areas for professional women
Do You Struggle With Any Of These Challenges?
Guilt
From experience, a feeling of guilt can be as a result of a decision that we have made about ourselves, that may be limiting us in our thinking or, based on a fear of what may happen in the future as a result of the decisions that are made today.
The first step in removing this feeling of guilt will be to really understand what is at the root of these feelings of guilt. When we are positive the root cause is clear, we will then use a number of specifically designed techniques to work on your mindset to resolve these underlying feelings.
Overwhelm
Having a to do list longer that your arm, needing to be perfect, being a fantastic Mum, having a home that is Instagramable at all times, all whilst holding down a fantastic career can very quickly lead to us feeling overwhelmed…
The key to being free from these feelings it is to really understand what is driving them and to get to the root cause of why we are doing it. Once we know what drives this, it is time to work on getting rid of the “problem” using specifically designed techniques that will help to improve your mindset and get you to a position of focusing on what you want.
Unsure of what to do next
Have you reached a point in your life, where you feel as though you are at a cross roads and have no idea what the future holds? Are you able to tell people all the things you are positive you don’t know what to do but hit a blank when it comes to knowing what your next steps are?
When you know what is driving the uncertainty you are feeling, it is time to work on getting rid of the “problem” using specifically designed techniques that will help to improve your mindset and get you to a position of focusing on what you want.
“If you want to get back in control of your life, there are solutions and options!”
First signs of a solution…
I had some CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) sessions, which I can honestly say provided me with some really helpful tips and tricks to help me manage the emotions I was experiencing.
After a while though I realised, I didn’t want to just “manage” my feelings, I wanted to not experience them in the first place!
I wanted to change, I was ready to change, I needed to change, but I wasn’t clear on how to actually change…
Really investing in myself was something that I was uncomfortable with. I didn’t thinking that the focus should be on me! Would I even have the time? Where would I possible fit anything else in? I was doing what I always did when it came to me, I was putting it off, I was neglecting my own emotional health. Why? Fear? Guilt? Yep there they were again.
It finally clicked!
It was during a conversation with a colleague that I was introduced to the term NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and something inside of me seemed to click and I knew that I needed to do something. I was finally ready.
This is where my journey of making lasting change and having the resources to create the life I wanted began. A journey that I am extremely glad that I embarked on and that has allowed me to reconnect with myself and to realise my purpose. One that enabled me to embrace redundancy with optimism and excitement at the possibilities that lay ahead for me.
If you want to get back in control of your life, there are solutions and options!
ASSISTING professional women to…
Take back control of their life and establish a healthier work / life balance
I am now a qualified Master Practitioner of NLP, Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapy and I now truly realise why the advice of putting your own oxygen mask on first is really important.
In fact, since making this investment into my own emotional well-being, things are so different. Life is still life and I still experience different challenges everyday. However, now I am much more in control of how I respond to these perceived challenges. I know what is inside of my control and influence and I let go of everything outside of that. Learning to let go was so refreshing.
Letting go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs…
I know now, through using proven mindset techniques, how to let go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs that have hindered me for so long.
My focus is now on helping others who find themselves in similar situations by teaching them the techniques and strategies I used to overcome my challenges.
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